A Hypothetical Life

The writing experience is often for me a stream of consciousness that flows through me and onto the page. While writing the second chapter of the new book the main character is being told he is living a hypothetical life. What an interesting idea. Can we live a hypothetical life, and if so what is it?

The main character is not sure how to take this news, because he feels that he is living life like everyone else. He is often stressed, unhappy and working too many hours all because he is never satisfied.

When we end trying to over think, anticipate, manipulate ... something that may or many not happen ~ our lives improve significantly

A hypothetical life is spent in your head, where you skip off the surface of reality like a stone across water. Every once in while touching its cool surface but mostly in the air going someplace new. Life spent in your head is a difficult place to live, yet most people are there, never fully realizing that life is just below the surface waiting for them to slow down enough to feel its security and warmth.

We compare ourselves to some ideal expectation we have of who we think we ought to be, or how life should turn out, instead of merely accepting who we are and what is happening and working with that. This inner conflict creates an enormous loss of energy and confidence that we then also beat ourselves up over having lost or wondering why we feel like we do. A hypothetical life creates a mean and vicious circle. Not only within us, but in the society we live in. Every time we think we are “fixing” something based on what we think “should be’’ (a hypothetical ideal) we are using flawed thinking. Ultimately, the “fix” creates unintentional consequences that need to be fixed to bring us back to a status quo.

When we end trying to over think, anticipate, manipulate, or beat ourselves up over something that may or may not have happened, our lives improve significantly. We end the need to have it shaped around some idealized expectation or requirement, and discover that life actually can look after itself.

Step back, take a deep breath, have a cup of tea, leave your smart phone in the car, and listen to what is around you. Leave your hypothetical life for a moment and you will discover life doing very well. A tree grows on its own without our help, squirrels find nuts and birds sing without your involvement. This is LIFE. It is an enormous energetic system of interconnected beings that help each other out simply by existing now. You too are connected to that system. You will see it at work, at the store you shop in, and at home. Your life may not be smooth or as elegant as nature, but let go enough to give it a chance. You’ll be fine.

Life is as it is.